As if high school was not difficult enough, in these years there is an increase in aggression behavior. It is possible that both girls and boys have aggressive behavior. In fact, girls are more likely to encounter stressful encounters with unpleasant and aggressive partners. Educate your child about aggressors and other torturers by understanding the culture of aggression.
What is a bad girl?
The label “significant girls” is an expression used to describe girls who exhibit antisocial behavior known as relational aggression . The term was popularized by the film Bad Girls , starring Lindsay Lohan. Bad behavior in girls includes gossip , humiliation verbal abuse from others, aggression, stabbing and using others to move on. Girls who are friendly one minute and bad in the next can be called «enemy friends.»
Bad girls can be found at school, on the bus and at extracurricular activities. They are especially good at turning a friend into a friend and target girls who are jealous or stand out from the crowd. Bad girls develop into drama and often resort to cyber aggression to torture their victims. It can be difficult to notice a bad girl because she is good at bullying, without being seen by teachers, other students and other adults. Bad girls can be considered popular among their peers, but this is not always the case.
Also known as: Divas, gossip, meanness, frenzy, queen bees and poisonous friends
How to help your daughter with a bad girl
The best way to help your daughter deal with an abuser or a bad girl is to talk about behaviors and tell your child that she is always there to talk and listen. If your child knows he can come to you for advice, he will not feel so alone. Help your child develop skills to deal with gossip or alienation. Role play is a great way to help your child deal with potential peer problems.
You can also insure your preadolescence develop as many healthy friends as possible as much as possible so that you have the support of your colleagues if you ever meet a bully or a bad girl. Friendships can be made at school as well as at extracurricular activities.
Talk to your child about what makes a true friend and what qualities you would like his friends to have. Suggest ways you can support your friends if they meet the bad girl in class. Talk about how to identify an abusive or mischievous girl, as well as ways to prevent potential encounters or altercations.
What not to do: ignore or deny. If your child is complaining about aggressors, it’s time to be careful. Aggressive behavior can be dangerous and your child is unlikely to know how to deal with the problem on their own. Left unchecked, aggression can affect a child’s self-esteem and make school life miserable. If necessary, consider contacting the school for assistance. His teachers school counselor al Your son I can help you.
A word from Verywell
One of the best ways to get your preadolescent or teen to talk to you about feeling left out, harassed, or ostracized by their peers is to connect with her in a meaningful way. When asking questions about your day, an event you attended, or the interactions you observed, be specific. Statements like: «Tell me how your training went at the gym with the new team.» or «I noticed those girls laughing at you as you headed for the car. What’s going on?» it can open the door to healthy and productive conversations.
Avoid being overly critical of your child’s peers and control the temptation to solve the problem of colleagues from their perspective. Instead, listen, provide assistance, and come up with a solution.